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I’m 70 and disabled... but I found the courage to end the merry go round life I was on living with an alcoholic husband. After retirement, he fell apart! He finally crossed my ultimate boundary.. drinking and driving. If after 2 DUI’s and 3 years with a breathalyzer in his car, I realized he would never change! Last hospital detox for him and the locks on the door were changed that night!! Thankfully I was prepared for what I knew was going to finally happen. House is in my name and I can now move on and plan for a simpler future.

Thank you for all your encouragement and support through the years.

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Thank you Michelle! This is just what I needed today - funny how that works. I'm preparing to have a difficult conversation and have to stick to my decision. No expectations, just courage, hope, and love.

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I’m taking steps FINALLY to file for divorce and move on. You helped me have the courage Michelle!

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When we stop trying to change them and start changing ourselves, wonderful things happen.

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I began to file for divorce and got cold feet. Things were better for a while but now almost worse than ever. He's 79 and will soon be 80, he's becoming senile in addition to his addiction to sleeping pills which come in the mail from who knows where. You can think this is mild but it is not. He's not young now and those sleeping pills are dangerous. He wakes up not knowing what day it is. Asks same question over and over, you get the idea. Last night after I fell asleep, he got in his car and drove it into a ditch right on a neighbors property! The police would do nothing because his license is from another state and the car is registered in his name, he didn't want a police report filed. This is not the first time, more like the fourth time such craziness has happened. It ruined my whole day and I lose my patience with him quickly. I feel like his "mother" policing him. He came home in the morning hours and left garage door open and house doors all open, that's what I found when I got up. Lucky we weren't robbed or hurt by a maniac during the night. Ruined my whole Sunday to say the least.

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So good to be able to listen to you again! The rollercoaster ride most of us are on really mess with your head until we forget what healthy looks like. You are a sobering, excuse the pun, reminder of what healthy should look like and how to retain respect and self respect in a kind loving manner. Thank you so much Michelle!

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Jan 1·edited Jan 1

Overwhelming and quite moving this message of encouragement and courage. Thank you so much thank you ~ I am making a plan for 2024 as the insanity, roller coaster, and pain from his daily drunkeness I cannot take anymore I must move. Thanks.JC San Diego

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I legally seperated from my husband who struggles with addiction and will file for divorce next year. Listening to loa definitely helped me through the difficult process and I know that I did the right thing. I guess right now, Ive hit a bit of a slump and trying to process all the emotions, I'm grieving and I need to keep digging deep and keep moving forward.

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Thank you soooo much for sharing your story with us, Michelle.

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Thank you for the voice recording, Michelle. ❤️Your brother made all the difference that Christmas by embodying what the holiday is for: giving of ourselves to others. His gift to you all is the star of the story, not ex’s failure. Maybe find a basketball goal ornament to lovingly hang on your tree this year in honor of this sweet memory?

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