When I was married to a good man who suffered from addiction, I was terrified of leaving him. I thought about leaving all the time; I think part of me always knew, we would end up in divorce, but the idea of actually leaving paralyzed me with fear.
Thank you. This is timely for me. I know that we’re going to divorce, and I have my plan laid out. However, I have about 3 contingent items that are all time-driven and outside my control. Every day, I ask myself if I should forego the plan and just start the process because every day that goes by is another day that I’ve wasted in this situation. BUT, your message about NOT making hasty decisions and making sure you get yours is exactly what I need to hear. (Then, I recall the old adage, “If you want to see God laugh, go ahead and make plans.”)
Thank you for this message. My husband and I are headed down this path were he is needing the time away and has decided to get an apartment. While he does not want a divorce, I am paralyzed thinking of us living separate lives, married, but really single. How do you come back together after living apart like that? I will take one step at a time. Right now we are working with our counselor on our communication style. It is amazing how your communication can truly destroy your relationship.
Keep writing and challenging us to think deeper and taking the steps to live outside of the fear.
Overwhelmed
Ready to split
Weights on my legs
Keep promising my teenagers we are moving
But haven't gone
Guilt sadness keeps me
Thank you for putting my feelings into words. It's great to know others face the same challenges and emotions.
Thank you. This is timely for me. I know that we’re going to divorce, and I have my plan laid out. However, I have about 3 contingent items that are all time-driven and outside my control. Every day, I ask myself if I should forego the plan and just start the process because every day that goes by is another day that I’ve wasted in this situation. BUT, your message about NOT making hasty decisions and making sure you get yours is exactly what I need to hear. (Then, I recall the old adage, “If you want to see God laugh, go ahead and make plans.”)
Thank you for this message. My husband and I are headed down this path were he is needing the time away and has decided to get an apartment. While he does not want a divorce, I am paralyzed thinking of us living separate lives, married, but really single. How do you come back together after living apart like that? I will take one step at a time. Right now we are working with our counselor on our communication style. It is amazing how your communication can truly destroy your relationship.
Keep writing and challenging us to think deeper and taking the steps to live outside of the fear.
I love the idea of taking a time out to think over big decisions like this… thank you for your advice. It has changed my life ♥️