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This is so hard! For a very long time I have carried the burden of my husbands addiction in secret. I was embarrassed and thought I could just carry it without sharing, because I didn’t want it to affect our “image”. But I finally have realized I can’t do this alone. I went to his counselor and was able to let go of so many feelings because he already knew it all. He talked to me about detachment, that I can’t be his accountability partner and realizing my happiness is not dependent on his sobriety. It was the most freeing feeling I have felt in our 15+ years of marriage and dealing (or not really dealing) with this addiction. My husband is a wonderful man and I hate that he has dealt with this for so long and how much it has hurt me. I love him, but I hate the addict.

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Annalee Buschbacher's avatar

I’m verrrrrry tired. I have covid right now (first time) feeling vulnerable. I have my own space to sleep/get away. Thank God.

But! I woke up to let our dog out & went to the back porch & found the window of the backdoor laying on the cement outside, tv remote outside on the ground, my side table with my rock collection, books, candles etc crushed & ruined(not the first time). Now not repairable. The only thing not harmed or spilled was his full glass of vodka. He fell more than once to do that amount of damage. All he said was my ‘rack’(side table)was cheap & useless. He won’t buy anything. I have to if I want something nice. So since I’m down with covid I spent the morning looking for a living situation. Found creeps & weirdoes. Great. So will go to social services next. I thought I could stay. I don’t want to anymore.

Getting back to this post....my mom & dad too, used to say I am the strongest person they knew. It triggered me. I so understand that! I’m no frail flower! But we all have our limits. I am just so dang grateful for Michelle & group, otherwise I’d think I’d lost my mind!

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