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Nora's avatar

What do I want? I want an emotionally clear headed husband so we can have clear conversations in the evening. I want a husband/partner to bond with. Someone who isn’t asleep at 7 every evening because he drank and cannot stay awake. What am I willing to do to get that? Help! This is where I am stuck. I am learning to detach by going and doing my own thing, but this doesn’t get me what I want/need emotionally.

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Staci W's avatar

I want a husband who doesn’t stay awake drinking until 6 am and being a real jerk because he is hungover. When he is drinking, he is so mean. The things he says. So many things in your post brought me to tears. You GET me. What do I want? I want more boundaries and the strength to do what I need to do. I have MS and prescribed opioid pain meds. Because I don’t have addiction issues, I am super careful. The pain is sometimes intolerable, he knows this, and the pain meds work so well. And what did he do?! Took them. I had to count my latest pill bottle. 2 were missing. I have to hide them now. When is ENOUGH ENOUGH? That’s what I want. The clarity to know when enough is enough.

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