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I'm struggling I just don't think I can do this anymore. His drinking has made me so unhappy and I just don't seem to care about how I look, don't care if house is messy. I no longer work in my flower beds. We don't really go anywhere because he's always a drunk fool. He is spending money like it's nothing. He does home repairs well he says he's working but I never see any money and he's drunk when he gets home so is he really working ? I know if I left him I would hurt him and that's why I can't seem to walk away. And the safe room is a good idea but he would leave me alone he would be knocking on door if not knocking down door. Thanks for letting me vent

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This helped me so much because since cutting off communication with my soon to be ex HFAH, I have felt out of sorts getting used to this new normal. What is normal? Anyway, this gives me something to look forward to for myself! I will start working on this after my vacation next week. In the meantime, the beach is calling my name!! What a year!! So ready to get through a bankruptcy and divorce and find my serenity again. God bless you Michelle and everyone in this group.

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I’m struggling too. My husband has about a week and a half left on his rehab stay (the fourth in three years, second stay in three months), and I’m dealing with intense distrust and anger inside me. I actually have the divorce paperwork filled out and ready to be filed, but I’m wondering if I should give him one last chance with strict boundaries in place.

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I absolutely love this. This is literally part of the routine I did to take back my life. Our house is only 600 Sq. Feet and I was lucky because my mom lived across the street and took me in when she found out how bad things had become. She gave me her art room and I remember buying art and blankets and candles for it... I felt so guilty for leaving my husband but so grateful for the space my mother made. It's been such a rough few years. Even with a husband in recovery I have to keep a strong self care routine and go to my weekly al anon meetings. This is brutal stuff ladies!! Self care is a requirement ❤️❤️❤️

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In my safe space, I make sure to keep a gratitude journal to help me focus on the “good” 💛

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Thank you for all the suggestions and the reminders to keep the space mine

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Michelle, thank you. You always know exactly what women married to addicts need to talk about, work through. LoA has helped me more than AlAnon, therapy, other groups... You have a gift. Thank you for sharing with us.

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I’m really struggling this week. My husband had recently relapsed and clearly struggling to get back to sobriety and extremely depressed as his business is failing. I feel like I’m being pulled back into the darkness when I come home from work. My children go to boarding school and I miss them immensely. I’m trying really hard to live in the moment and not think too far ahead but it’s very hard. Thank you Michelle for all your wisdom, it helps me to feel less alone xx

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