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Leslie B's avatar

"I wanted to teach her - she never needs to voluntarily stay in the presence of self-destructive people who are acting unkind."

^^ This hit me hard. It basically sums up the last year or so of my marriage (to someone struggling with alcohol dependency). I do not miss that feeling. No one deserves to be treated that way.

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Ashley's avatar

My boyfriend is a drug addict. He will use for a week/week and a half straight, and then be sober for 2 weeks, and back to using and back to being sober. Some days are harder than others. When he is using, he is usually agitated and becomes more defensive. There are some days I match his energy and he wonders why I act that way and doesn’t realize I’m putting out what he does. But other days I know two wrongs don’t make a right and just keep my distance. As I have learned, having any conversations during those times, there’s a good chance he won’t remember or the conversation goes no where. When he is sober, we are GREAT together. My anger won’t help the situation and I’ve learned that sometimes he just needs me to be there for him. Some days I can do that to a certain extent so I can keep myself mentally in a good space.

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