A loving reminder about choosing your words carefully when you love someone suffering from addiction.
It's so nice to be back and writing for you again. Today's newsletter will be short and sweet because sometimes, reading and researching about this disease can feel overwhelming and become a chore.
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Many of us struggle with our words (I know I do), and due to our fear or anger, we say something that might hurt the ones we love or make us feel guilty.
Here are two loving reminders about using our selections of words carefully.
Bad Mouthing Them to Your Children
Your children deserve the right to form their own opinion about their parent, not inherit yours. Different children react differently. Some think their parent who suffers from addiction is a hero, some get angry, some are too young to understand and are indifferent. All of these reactions are ok.
When they get hurt by the addicted parent, tell them, "Daddy/Mommy is sick. They have a disease. There is nothing you can do to help them. Only they can decide when to get better. They love you very much." And then let them feel their feelings. Give their reaction to addiction space by actively listening. Be the safe spot they deserve by empathizing and reflecting back to them what you think they are saying.
Bad Mouthing Them to Your Friends & Family
Do you speak disrespectfully about your loved one to friends and family? No judgment here. Our goal is to be a person with integrity, dignity, and kind speech - even if the one we love is not showing us the same respect. You can speak of your pain and suffering, but choose words carefully.
Do you have a hard time with this? Me too:) I think we all do. We are growing together. What's one thing you are struggling with this week?