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Sarah K's avatar

YES! Yes, this is sooooo important. When I started putting my self first, my outlook on my crappy alcoholic marriage changed, and I realized my marriage and partner did not define who I was as a person and it did not define my morals/ dreams/ etc. His choices were his. It's a long, hard road with many bumps and holes in between but worth it.

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Kelly L's avatar

I just had this discussion with my counselor yesterday. It’s so hard to not react when I know my AH is drunk (and he is denying drinking anything). My counselor said I need to picture being attached to him with a rope. He is going over the cliff and every time I argue, blame, cry, etc, he is pulling me toward the cliff with him. I don’t want to go over that cliff so I am not going to get pulled down with him.

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