A Simple Way To Break Our Unhealthy Cycles

If you're feeling trapped in a cycle of reacting to their addiction, here's a simple tip that will help you choose a different response.

Thank you for continuing to share this newsletter. I know a lot of you are curious about the programs and podcasts. All I can say is that I am working on it. Slowly and surely, I am starting to get a better vision of what we need in the space of loving someone suffering from addiction. I don’t want to go back to the way things were (that model - behind the scenes - was confusing), and I don’t want to be a self-promotional “self-help influencer.”

I would love to offer you help in the privacy of your own home (or car, or wherever you are) through online programs with easy, simple steps and clear directions and perhaps some meet-ups online and in person.

In a world full of AI, trolls, too many podcasts, and so much social media - I want to connect the old-fashioned way (lol): In-person, voice-to-voice, reading, writing, studying, and application.

I have some ideas - but I would love to hear yours, too, so please feel free to leave your suggestions in the comments. And thank you for sharing this resource while we park here and start dreaming big.

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If you love someone suffering from addiction, it can feel like an emotional roller-coaster. One day they are sober and doing great; the next, they backtrack.

Have you ever had a physical reaction when you discover your partner broke their promise to stop their unhealthy habits? Maybe you feel like you've been punched in the gut. Or a lump appears in your throat.

You might think this disease is going to break you.

We have all felt empty and helpless at times.

Many of us wonder: will the one I love ever get better?

It's normal for us to feel embarrassed when comparing our life to other couples' lives.

Some of us hide our big secret (that our loved ones struggle with addiction) from our friends and family.

If you're feeling trapped in a cycle of reacting to their addiction by fighting, ignoring, resenting, blaming, and hoping - you are not alone. If you're trying so hard to be the happy and lovingly supportive partner, but nothing seems to be working, let's try something new.