A New Beginning
Why I shut down Love Over Addiction and moved here to our new little safe space (plus, what you can expect from me)
Let’s start again, shall we? A new beginning - here on a platform called Substack.
Why Substack, you might be wondering. It’s where all the “serious” writers are moving, lol. But seriously, there are a lot of journalists and authors that have quit the publishing world and selected Substack as their main gig.
Basically: Substack is a place for writers to keep it simple and just write inspirational words (hopefully).
No algorithms. No SEO. No clickbait. Just writing for the sake of saying something.
My previous writing career at Love Over Addiction was complicated. It didn’t start out that way, but thanks to Google, Facebook, and Instagram, it became more and more about how to get eyeballs on the “brand.”
I started my career over 10 years ago because I love writing. For real people. Not for “likes” or a popularity contest.
I’m a private person, and fame was never my end game.
But when I had advisors telling me I needed to Tictok account - that’s when I was like, “Ummmmmmm no. Just no.”
I’m not dancing with bubbles popping up on the screen. THAT is definitely not my brand (there are some great women doing this, but I’m not going to be one of them).
So… I took a break and regrouped.
I asked myself - how could I talk to you without doing the “influencer” - “self-help” - 10k for “coaching sessions” thing.
And this was the place. Substack. Easy. No frills.
I simply write, ask you questions, and you comment if you’d like - and we learn together.
How about that?
I would like to write about loving someone suffering from addiction, and I would also like to write about things I’m struggling with right now.
Because it feels honest if I tell you - I’m struggling too.
I’m not feeling great, and I would LOVE the chance to hear your thoughts about it. When I write about my current struggles - I want to know things like - have you ever felt this way? What did you do that helped?
I’d rather not be viewed as someone who has all the answers but rather as someone who is a friend that’s a human and goes through good times and bad.
THAT feels honest to me. And if there’s one thing I’ve tried to consistently be for you - it’s honest and real.
Because I know if you’re with someone struggling with addiction - chances are honesty is not a consistent theme in your life.
So yeah, there will be monthly emails I send about addiction. I’ve got that subject down pat. I feel confident enough to provide you with helpful tips about boundaries, when to leave, how to talk to your children, etc.
And I’ll also write about the struggles of being a woman. And maybe you’ll be able to relate, and we can share together. I swear; half my kid’s friends are online these days - so why not join the party?
Now - in order to do this little social experiment, I need to create a privacy wall. What I want to share will not be for everyone.
I’m not on social media right now.
I’m not podcasting.
This is the secret spot you’ll find me.
And in order to create a safe place to write AND comment - I think a subscription is the best way. You don’t have to pay if you don’t want. Certainly not.
I’ll write helpful tips about addiction for free.
But I want to protect us and our conversations (the internet is a crazy place right now, isn’t it?), so I am going to send most of my articles to subscribers who can comment. That way, we can discuss, and the rest of the world cannot see. It’s not a perfect situation, but it replaces any secret Facebook group or Slack channel, and it prevents you from downloading another app.
Let’s recap what you can expect:
Weekly emails from me about addiction and other personal topics
I will only turn on comments for paid subscribers to protect privacy
But if you don’t want to pay - totally cool. Get it. Respect it. Enjoy the free content.
I have missed you all. It’s nice to be back. Honestly.
What topics would you find helpful to discuss?
Do you love someone struggling with addiction?
Are you curious about how to make and maintain female friendships?
Is body image something you walk to talk about?
In other words, what do you want to talk about in a safe space that others are not discussing?
Please share in the comments, and I’ll jot these down for future newsletters.
Hello. I found “Love Over” as you were taking a break. My husband is 90 days sober and has been working extremely hard on himself. My greatest challenge is that while he has been working on him and moving forward to his better self, he has ignored the “us” and refuses to address his actions towards me or how his addiction has affected me as an individual. I would love some words on how to manage resentment and how to maintain the “we” while they work on themselves.
I am so tired and frustrated from being the support and cheerleader for the source of my own pain and suffering.
I am so happy to hear your (writing) voice. I missed your words and honesty so much. It was pretty much impossible to find another figure with the sincerity and candor you bring to the table. I’m also not a fan of “branding” and feels disingenuous to me. My students were trying to convince me to become a TikTok teacher and I was like “Um, that sounds like my personal hell.” The simpler the better I say! I look forward to hearing from you and the other members who always inspired me and made me feel hope. I think it’s wonderful you’re sharing your struggles as well. We’re all struggling for different reasons and trying to pretend everything is perfect is a stress that a lot of people are carrying unnecessarily.