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I know this is the right place for me. I know it when Michelle's insights feel like she has read my soul, so resonant are her words with my own experiences. And when other women show me I am not alone on this journey. It's as though I've been so focused on one thing that I don't recognize that I can be validated by others,that I don't need his approval of my feelings, that I am not bad or crazy or guilty. Just weary.

Thanks, Michelle as always.

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So welcome Tara 💝

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Michelle, your message ALWAYS comes at the perfect time for me. I have listened to your words of encouragement for several years, made big changes and this episode reminded plus validated my feelings and to take care of myself as #1.

Thank you....

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I am the addict.

My husband gave me an ultimatum last night.

Him or Percocet.

I want him.

I want time with my grandchildren.

I want a life.

I need help.

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I love how you put just start with “simple things” like not talking about it with friends, or not answering your phone. I have learned to drink the coffee I love and let myself get up and take my time for me. Not always but a lot of the time. It’s the start to healing.

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I am so glad you are back Michelle! I have so missed loa, it helped me so much when I was with my husband who struggles with addiction. Now we are seperated and, I know here I'll find the support to recover and find myself again.

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Would you mind if i posted a poem from when i was with a chronic alcoholic? If it's not the place would I be able to send it to you privitely. You guided me an the poem is raw an real.

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Please

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Have you contacted an addiction center ? Im sorry it seems no one here has reached out to you.

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Thank you for reaching out.

I’ve had spinal surgery since this post. It has made a world of difference! I’m no longer in the crippling pain, I’m working with my pain management team to get opioids out of my life.

I am able to walk again, swim again and have a life.

I came clean with everyone.

I’m still struggling but, no longer taking more than prescribed.

Every day is a fight with myself.

My husband has locked up my medication, I receive my daily amount only and I sometimes don’t use the full amount.

I have a kidney stone that needs to be removed. After that surgery my doctor is dropping me from 5/325 four times a day to 3 times a day, the next month it will be 2 times a day.

I couldn’t do it by myself. I had to accept that before making any progress.

I see the end of the tunnel, it looks like sunshine and clear skies!

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November 2, 2023
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Hilary, I am so glad you’re hear. 💕 Let’s start with trying not to overthink their behavior (so hard to do). Try putting the focus on YOU and YOUR health. This is the first step to detachment.

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