Hi, for those of you who are new here - welcome:). I am the creator of Love Over Addiction and have been writing about loving someone with addiction for over a decade. I am not a therapist or coach and received my certification in Psychology of Addiction and Recovery from Stanford University. Love Over Addiction was a top-ranked podcast with over 5 million downloads. After Covid, I experienced burnout and, for many reasons, decided to simplify my work by writing on this platform, Substack. I am slowly rethinking what Love Over Addiction will be in the future, but for now, this is where you can find helpful weekly tips and updates on when the programs will be available again. I love hearing from you, so please leave a comment below or email me at Michelle@LoveOverAddiction.com. Some of you have asked if I am hiring. Although I don’t have any positions open right now, I would love to hear from you - especially if you have non-profit, charity experience, or private practice experience.
I know this is the right place for me. I know it when Michelle's insights feel like she has read my soul, so resonant are her words with my own experiences. And when other women show me I am not alone on this journey. It's as though I've been so focused on one thing that I don't recognize that I can be validated by others,that I don't need his approval of my feelings, that I am not bad or crazy or guilty. Just weary.
Michelle, your message ALWAYS comes at the perfect time for me. I have listened to your words of encouragement for several years, made big changes and this episode reminded plus validated my feelings and to take care of myself as #1.
I love how you put just start with “simple things” like not talking about it with friends, or not answering your phone. I have learned to drink the coffee I love and let myself get up and take my time for me. Not always but a lot of the time. It’s the start to healing.
I am so glad you are back Michelle! I have so missed loa, it helped me so much when I was with my husband who struggles with addiction. Now we are seperated and, I know here I'll find the support to recover and find myself again.
Would you mind if i posted a poem from when i was with a chronic alcoholic? If it's not the place would I be able to send it to you privitely. You guided me an the poem is raw an real.
I’ve had spinal surgery since this post. It has made a world of difference! I’m no longer in the crippling pain, I’m working with my pain management team to get opioids out of my life.
I am able to walk again, swim again and have a life.
I came clean with everyone.
I’m still struggling but, no longer taking more than prescribed.
Every day is a fight with myself.
My husband has locked up my medication, I receive my daily amount only and I sometimes don’t use the full amount.
I have a kidney stone that needs to be removed. After that surgery my doctor is dropping me from 5/325 four times a day to 3 times a day, the next month it will be 2 times a day.
I couldn’t do it by myself. I had to accept that before making any progress.
I see the end of the tunnel, it looks like sunshine and clear skies!
Hilary, I am so glad you’re hear. 💕 Let’s start with trying not to overthink their behavior (so hard to do). Try putting the focus on YOU and YOUR health. This is the first step to detachment.
I know this is the right place for me. I know it when Michelle's insights feel like she has read my soul, so resonant are her words with my own experiences. And when other women show me I am not alone on this journey. It's as though I've been so focused on one thing that I don't recognize that I can be validated by others,that I don't need his approval of my feelings, that I am not bad or crazy or guilty. Just weary.
Thanks, Michelle as always.
So welcome Tara 💝
Michelle, your message ALWAYS comes at the perfect time for me. I have listened to your words of encouragement for several years, made big changes and this episode reminded plus validated my feelings and to take care of myself as #1.
Thank you....
I am the addict.
My husband gave me an ultimatum last night.
Him or Percocet.
I want him.
I want time with my grandchildren.
I want a life.
I need help.
I love how you put just start with “simple things” like not talking about it with friends, or not answering your phone. I have learned to drink the coffee I love and let myself get up and take my time for me. Not always but a lot of the time. It’s the start to healing.
I am so glad you are back Michelle! I have so missed loa, it helped me so much when I was with my husband who struggles with addiction. Now we are seperated and, I know here I'll find the support to recover and find myself again.
Would you mind if i posted a poem from when i was with a chronic alcoholic? If it's not the place would I be able to send it to you privitely. You guided me an the poem is raw an real.
Please
Have you contacted an addiction center ? Im sorry it seems no one here has reached out to you.
Thank you for reaching out.
I’ve had spinal surgery since this post. It has made a world of difference! I’m no longer in the crippling pain, I’m working with my pain management team to get opioids out of my life.
I am able to walk again, swim again and have a life.
I came clean with everyone.
I’m still struggling but, no longer taking more than prescribed.
Every day is a fight with myself.
My husband has locked up my medication, I receive my daily amount only and I sometimes don’t use the full amount.
I have a kidney stone that needs to be removed. After that surgery my doctor is dropping me from 5/325 four times a day to 3 times a day, the next month it will be 2 times a day.
I couldn’t do it by myself. I had to accept that before making any progress.
I see the end of the tunnel, it looks like sunshine and clear skies!
Hilary, I am so glad you’re hear. 💕 Let’s start with trying not to overthink their behavior (so hard to do). Try putting the focus on YOU and YOUR health. This is the first step to detachment.