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Liz D's avatar

Thank you for this. I definitely needed this. He argues with me all the time when he’s drunk. Especially telling me I do everything wrong and I’m an idiot,etc. I want to defend myself and the argument begins and it can get very bad and even though I know I’m right, of course I am lol, I can’t explain to him that is wrong when he’s drunk. When he is sober, which isn’t often, he’ll agree that was wrong of him to say but that really doesn’t make me feel much better. I’m definitely going to try these steps the next time, which will be soon because he’s already started drinking for the long holiday weekend.

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Sarah K's avatar

God, I needed this one this week... My recovering husband and I had been getting along pretty well as of recently and then in one triggering fauxpaus we were back to square one. I literally morphed from content, happy me to broken, in pain, hostile me from when he was in rehab and I found the depths of all his addictions... And I'm still angry. 5 days later since our blow out and I am STILL so, so angry and triggered. It's almost like there is another me within myself that just sprung out of the shadows and I'm trying to shove her back into the closet of my being... Marriage to an addict, in recovery or not, is so so hard. I have to do daily gratitude lists and text my sponsor a lot. If there is one thing I'm grateful for, it's the number of people who have come into my life to walk beside me in this journey, because it's their journey too.

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